Single Parenting While Married
What does single parenting look like? Every person can define it differently. Some have great co-parenting. Some have no co-parenting and make it look easy. Some struggle. Some are married and it is still single parenting. It is tough any way you define it.
My struggle.
Single parenting while married.
I need to discuss this openly. I cannot hold this in anymore and it is too hard to keep talking about out loud.
When your husband is sick and dying you need to find ways to cope. When you are strong and independent and struggling to give a shit about anything in life. When you can keep a roof up and food available, but struggle with giving a shit. It is hard to put on a smile. You almost feel bi-polar. You say "yes I am fine." But are you really?
Emotionally disconnecting is easy to say, but you still feel guilty for making the decisions you are. You go to visit. He tell you to leave. He hasn't been anything but a burden for months. But he was physically there. All the complaining I did about the messes he was making. But he was there. He wasn't in a nursing home. He wasn't isolated. He wanted to go for rides in the car. He wanted to feel the breeze in his face. Like a freed dog on a hot day with his head out the window.
The arguments were awful. But he was there.
The drinking was awful. But he was there.
We waited on him hand and foot. It was awful. But he was there.
Now I feel he has no one. Even though I am a mile down the road.
When your baby cries uncontrollably because she is upset about doing something she loves. There is a deeper issue. She won't talk. She has said one time, she is afraid people are going to get hurt. I can't imagine what she is going through. And what she will go through when he passes.
He is in so much pain.
Single parenting of 3 kids while Married.
Think about it.
My struggle.
Single parenting while married.
I need to discuss this openly. I cannot hold this in anymore and it is too hard to keep talking about out loud.
When your husband is sick and dying you need to find ways to cope. When you are strong and independent and struggling to give a shit about anything in life. When you can keep a roof up and food available, but struggle with giving a shit. It is hard to put on a smile. You almost feel bi-polar. You say "yes I am fine." But are you really?
Emotionally disconnecting is easy to say, but you still feel guilty for making the decisions you are. You go to visit. He tell you to leave. He hasn't been anything but a burden for months. But he was physically there. All the complaining I did about the messes he was making. But he was there. He wasn't in a nursing home. He wasn't isolated. He wanted to go for rides in the car. He wanted to feel the breeze in his face. Like a freed dog on a hot day with his head out the window.
The arguments were awful. But he was there.
The drinking was awful. But he was there.
We waited on him hand and foot. It was awful. But he was there.
Now I feel he has no one. Even though I am a mile down the road.
When your baby cries uncontrollably because she is upset about doing something she loves. There is a deeper issue. She won't talk. She has said one time, she is afraid people are going to get hurt. I can't imagine what she is going through. And what she will go through when he passes.
He is in so much pain.
Single parenting of 3 kids while Married.
Think about it.
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