Chaos in an Unconventional World

Originally Written 10/9/2017 Why does it matter if our beds are made or our rooms are clean?  Why does it matter if our houses are picked up?  Why does it matter if we care what others think?  Why can't we love our kids the way we want without society giving us shit? I have watched a video this week of a woman that said yes to her kids all week ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JmWfY4nb6oM ). It was a fulfilling week. They have to learn to crawl before they can run.  Who cares if they are on their computer past 7 pm. I need peace and peace is what I will get. I will do something with each kid individually every week. We will do something unexpected each week.  Why say NO?  To keep ourselves safe?  I have raised my kids to be strong humans.  They are good kids.  Humans.  Yes.  Humans make mistakes.  Perfect.  But why?  Be creative.  Use your imagination.  Fuck everything else. 

Originally Written 10-8-2017  We all need to feel safe. Work, home, society. Sandra Bloom (2015) discusses the different types of Safety. Moral, Social, Emotional, and Physical. At home most of us can control the safety.  Locking doors and windows. Owning a gun. Or a really heavy baseball bat. We can control who we let in our house. We can control the atmosphere and rid it of negativity. I mean wearing pants is usually optional! And at home our morals are usually steadfast. At work the types of safety are questionable. Physically it is easy No one can throw a punch (well they could but not a good a good idea). No one will want to risk their paycheck for sexual harassment or violence. Emotionally it an be tough. As a manager/supervisor every day can be a challenge when dealing with others.  Especially others that you supervise and basically tell them what to do.  You not only have to keep your own emotions; sometimes good, bad, violent, I want to throat punch you thoughts;